Is he for real? I just left my husband a little less than a month ago.?

This person does not sound healthy and he's ABUSIVE. Listen to your instincts, it's telling you something, which is why you're asking this question. If you have to ask, you instinctually already know. Follow your instincts. As women, we tend to overlook these things and want to give these people another chance. Then 10 yrs go by and it's worse. My thoughts are with you...