To All Adoptive Parents and Birthmothers:?

I am a birthmother who gave two newborns up for adoption. I have absolutely no regrets and I have the type of adoption agreement that is open and the adoptive parents agreed to allow me to see the babies. One is now 4 and the other is almost a year. It is the best decision i have ever made for myself and my children. They both have lives better than I could ever give them and I get to see them several times a year and talk to them on the phone at least once a month. The only thing I would tell her to be careful of is that although I got lucky and found great people to adopt my children, there is no guarantee or law that protects the birthmothers rights as far as seeing the child after birth. The adoptive parents sign an agreement and the agencies encourage them to stand by their agreement to allow the birthparents to see the child but it is not legally binding. So, just warn her to be very careful of who she chooses for adoptive parents. If she isnt completely comfortable with the adoptive parents she chose, she is always allowed to change to another set of parents all the way until the baby is born and the papers are signed. As long as she is comfortable withe them it should be ok. I can only tell you it has been a great thing for us and I am very close with the two families who adopted my children! I give her a lot of credit for having the courage to do this!